Story-time From A Young Alexa Phelece

Ever reflect back on your life and wish to be someone different? Read how my 17-year-young-self understood that “Life is all about creating yourself, not finding yourself” and what it takes to stand out from the crowd.

Have you ever reflected on your life and wished you were someone else, somewhere else, doing something else? We have all heard about how important it is to “find yourself” from time to time but it can be so difficult to set aside the mental stress of each day and re-think what we REAL desires are. What do you really want out of life? When it comes down to seeing your true desires and making the necessary changes to make them happen, it’s not about ‘finding yourself its about creating yourself. I understood this at 17 but somehow forgot it along the way. I never realized how much my family, my spirituality, and the influence of others, shaped my mindset, until I found an old high school project. 

“I believe you cannot find yourself. I believe you create yourself.” – Alexa Phelece 2010

The nature of this assignment was simple. I had to create a scrapbook that explained to the class “WHO I AM”.  What I didn’t know is that most people spend their whole lifetime trying to figure out who they are. When you’re seventeen, you can feel invisible like no one understands you. I think this project gave me permission to see my truest self at a very vulnerable stage of my life. This assignment gave me chance to be a pioneer for my future. Looking back I can see what my teacher was trying to do. My teacher was trying to show us that we as humans have the unique ability to design the life we want for ourselves. We also get to choose who we want to become. That is the ultimate power, being yourself, choosing to become the best version of yourself. 

In life, many of us are trying to discover who we are and what life really means. The truth is, there is no one meaning to life, it’s the purpose that we choose to have within that lifetime. Life is about constantly checking in with yourself and evolving to become the person you want to be. This assignment was a BIG DEAL because it was my first introduction to the skill of self-awareness, and little did I know, it helped shape the course of my life forever.