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3 Steps To Feel Confident Like A Model

July 12, 2022

By alexaphelece

When I started to dominate the camera, pose well, and slay photoshoots that’s when I truly began to feel confident. Tell me… when you’re out at brunch with your ladies, or at a dear friend’s wedding, and those phones and cameras break out to document these moments, are you ready with a go to pose? Do you feel confident like a model regardless of the setting or occasion? How about when there are no external pressures? It’s just you and your phone taking a quick little selfie in your OOTD. Do you feel CONFIDENT?…

It’s quite easy to feel overwhelmed and awkward when put on the spot or when you’re just not that comfortable in your own skin. If you don’t know how to pose, you probably feel insecure and not swaggy at all. Instead, you feel overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings about how you might appear. And let me tell you… all that doubt and insecurity is visible in your pictures.
Let’s Get To Feeling More Confident

At the last Every Body Deserves Love Beach Party there was a raffle prize for a confidence building photoshoot to raise money for the organization. Joan, the woman who won the prize, had her photoshoot last week and told me a little about her experience. She felt good, enjoyed herself and the unique experience over all but she beggggged for some tips on how to pose. She lacked the confidence in her ability to feel comfortable when posing. This is such a common request and occurrence, and for a good reason. Posing can feel so unnatural. However it is an easy skill to learn that will evolve the way you walk, talk, and ultimately take photos.
You might be thinking, “Well Alexa, you’re a freaking MODEL! Like of course you have mad confidence in yourself!?” As I have shared with you Babes before, that wasn’t always the case! Even now, there are days when I do not feel the most confident in myself, but I do feel confident in the education, time, and endless amounts of practice I have put into my posing skills. The old saying “practice makes perfect” is not just something our parents, coaches, and mentors say to get us to do the things we do not want to do. They say it because it works! Practice, as said in other blogs here are about building “Muscle Memory”. Today I want to pass on some of my posing tips to help you build that confidence for yourself.

There are three sustainable, long lasting ways to feel prepared in moments where there’s a photo or video being taken. This will allow for you to feel confident and connected to how you look, express yourself, and move your body. All which are key components to successful posing.

My tips to help you build confidence are:

  • Looking at yourself in the mirror
  • Practicing in selfie mode and with others
  • Investing in developing new posing skills

Posing is important because it relates to self-love and fuller acceptance of your being. Posing unlocks your own natural ability to be fully yourself. This confidence is something only you can do through learning and practicing new poses. Learning as a community is fun and exciting! Let’s go through some steps on how you can apply the above tips.
Feel Confident Step One:Start by looking at yourself in the mirror. Do it. I know it can be weird, uncomfortable, and unfamiliar. But like an Onion in your eyes …let it burn baby. You got this! Like a storm passes through the country, this will pass too. Look in the mirror at your body as a whole. Imagine and visualize the color of the energy you give off. We all radiate energy and imagining with colors is fun. We are more open to joy and healing when fun is involved. Pick any color that makes you feel happy while being mindful of the thoughts you think about yourself when you look in the mirror. Allow hurtful comments to be forgiven and released for you don’t need them. Anytime you are looking at yourself in the mirror use it as a chance to watch the way you move. Remember to have fun when practicing this step and show yourself so much love, you’re awesome!

Feel Confident Step Two: Practice your posing. You should be practicing posing in a way that makes you feel confident. There are lots of ways to practice posing for the camera. Great photos can come as a result of using selfie mode and a tripod or a creative photoshoot with friends. Practice posing as often as you can to feel confident. Take note, I said confident not COMFORTABLE. I am a model and I would be lying to you if I told you that all poses that make me feel confident are also comfortable. That is a big ol’ LIE. My favorite poses are often challenging to my body but I enjoy the challenge. No matter how you practice posing, keep going! Turn on music while you’re doing it and do it everywhere. BE creative and use your imagination. Continue practicing the poses that make you feel confident because confidence is key.
Feel Confident Step Three: Use the resources offered to you by experts. If someone has created wealth from their skills and techniques, invest in their programs for your success. Developing new posing skills and feeling confident in your body is more enjoyable when you can lean on a friendly and experienced mentor. We all can benefit from guidance and seeking it out from professionals, or those who are accomplished in their fields has been a great part of my success in building my own skill set. Like learning any new hobby, craft, or skill it pays to learn and educate yourself. There are so many beautiful resources out there!

If you’d like to learn more about my own favorite poses or the “Do’s & Don’ts of posing” subscribe to my email list if you haven’t already. I am offering those resources and more as freebies! I hope with the tips that I shared with you all today that you will look in the mirror at yourselves with soooo much love and appreciation for your wonderful uniqueness. That you embrace and accept all that you are and embody that alongside fun to give blossom to all the mad confidence I know is within! The more you practice, the easier it gets.

Please share this blog with your friends, family, and whomever else you feel could benefit from these tips and reminders of self-love. Taking a great picture starts and ends with CONFIDENCE baby!
For more modeling tips, consider enrolling in our Modeling 101 Course.

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